When women entrepreneur start a new business, a lot of odds seem to be standing in their way: very few prospects, lack of capital and experience, inadequate skills, thin cash flow, competing proprieties and lack of time, and so many more. However, there is one thing you wouldn’t have suspected standing in your way, but it does, and that is your family story and ancestral past. In one of the episodes of my Wealthy Wednesday Show, Johanna Lynn and I discussed what role one’s ancestral past plays in one’s success in business and life, and we determined that it was a major one. Ancestral history, emotions, values, and attitude form our belief system and impact the way we work and live. Failure, doubt, success, guilt, and shame are all feelings that we experience as women and particularly as women entrepreneurs, and these feelings have a context in your ancestral past and how they viewed the same things. For instance, if there is a precedence of women not working in your family or lack of success with businesses, then you would not only find it very hard to start your own business but even harder to sustain it through the rough times. However, here are some ways you can use the force of family history as a liberating factor and not a debilitating one:
Understand Your Emotional DNA
Scientific evidence suggests that whenever we experience physical and emotional trauma, chemical changes occur to our DNA and their impact are retained in us. This impact is passed on through this DNA to our next generation. This means that we inherit from our ancestors a lot more than the color of our eyes and height; we end up inheriting their emotions, attitudes, perspectives, personal traumas, guilt, and struggles. Even if we are living in a time and circumstances different than our grandparents, we often end up unknowingly feeling the same emotions and conflicts they have felt before. These kinds of struggles and emotions of our ancestors are stored in our DNA memory and are replayed and relived involuntarily. So understanding your family history helps you unlock your emotional DNA and transform it.
Unearth Your Family Story
Family stories live in us; they are passed on through us. It might be possible that someone in your ancestors lived in the times of a war, fled persecution, faced hostility, were immigrants, struggled with money or poverty, or faced personal issues with debt or abuse. This kind of ancestral past can keep you edgy and scared of change or overcautious in your approach to life and business. Johanna Lynn calls it a “proverbial backpack” that you drag into a new relationship or business and sabotage it unwittingly. It can cause you to do what I personally call “stockpiling” of things, hanging on to too many things, doing too many projects at the same time, or giving and giving to your clients, to your family until you run empty or in debt. One way to understand and recalibrate your own DNA is to educate yourself about your family stories and ancestral roots, contextualize your own behavior and fears and attempt to liberate yourself from their negative influence.
Understand Your Emotional Triggers
Johanna Lynn thinks that family history forms the “inner blue print” of your money story. It gives rise to the loop of “never enough” thinking. This means that that your negative emotions of stress and panic are triggered every time you see a challenge, a deadline. A bill or bank statement throws you in a lurch, start a new worry of cycle. You start arguing with your partner, your client or spouse or become emotionally distant and withdrawn. The loop of “never enough” thinking has roots in generational DNA. Johanna Lynn emphasizes that once you learn to control your emotional triggers, you learn that your emotions are not running you but you are running them. This understanding helps you respond to tough situations and tricky people with confidence and see the hidden opportunities behind challenges.
Create a Better Legacy for your Children
Johanna Lynn tells us that what impacts us also impacts our children because we share the same story; we share the same DNA. This means that generational healing work would not only help your children but also your grandchildren, so that they don’t have to go through the same emotional upheavals as you. Even if your children are all grownup now, there is still a chance and hope. We can choose to end a trauma and negative cycle at our own generation or allow it to continue over and over. No one understands how family story can make or break you better than me, as I was born in an underprivileged background. My own ancestors fled from war and took a vow of poverty when they arrived at America, which hung around like a curse generation after generation. I thought I too was doomed to stay poor, broke and struggling, just like my mother and her mother. However, generational cleansing and healing allowed me to eventually create a better legacy for myself and my son.
Your ancestral history is a storehouse of emotions, memories, karma and lessons of your life time and beyond. Generational cleansing and healing can help you understand your family story and allow it to have a better ending. I am Luci McMonagle, a Mystic Wealth Creator. I am teaching ambitious self-aware women entrepreneurs to liberate themselves from family curses and burdens of the past and welcome more abundance, joy and wealth in their lives. If you want to be one of them, I am offering you an exploratory session that’s FREE of charge. Book a slot for yourself.